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[ravena_kade]

The woman next to me at work will plac her 97 year old mom in a nursing home next week and is joking about putting her in a straight jacket because she doesn’t want to go and is frightened. Maybe the police will subdue her for them....

How about mildly sedating her for the trip you moron.....

I had to walk away. It’s not something to joke about. My mother’s frightened calls and screams haunt me. EVERY NIGHT.

Karma will find her.

May the old woman find peace

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[fionaniconnor]

This is going to sound HORRIBLE but I hope you take it in the kind sense in which it is meant:

I hope the poor dear doesn't last long. Living in utter terror like that is no way to live, especially if she's been dumped in an unfamiliar place without anyone who loves her to look after her.

[ravena_kade]

No, I don't take it wrong. I hope she passes before they try to take her from her home. And good to the selfish family to loose the 12K they paid a lawyer to push this through.

I remember my mother's terror too much and it was just supposed to be 3 weeks...not forever.


May their children repeat the cruelty.

[gwendraith]

What a sad way to end the last few months or years of a life although sometimes there's no other option. Not a situation to joke about though, it seems unfeeling. Is the daughter responsible for her care at the moment?

[ravena_kade]

The daughter works and the retired husband and a daughter in law take care of the Mom. The daughter is 67 years old enough to retire with full benefits but doesn't want to...and she is the one given no work because she keeps making mistakes. The is husband is 66 and calls and complains a lot. From what I can tell the old woman had some tendonitis and they but her in a rehab for 2 weeks in January to work through the pain... and they must have liked her gone. There is nothing physically wrong with her and she is at the beginning stages of dementia so she is starting to repeat her self often and goes off on odd conversations sometimes...

The sad part is that they liven the house that belonged to the Mom and in 1997 she sold it to them for $1.00. They have no mortgage as the house is paid off. The mother's money even bought them a furnace last august.

All they would need is a home healthcare person to pop in a couple times a week and ask the son and daughter in law to watch her when they wanted to go out .

I know this is possible as my Mom took care of my grandmother. My Aunt my great grandmother. And my friends did the same for their Dad with stage 3 dementia...they didn't want him in a home because they knew he'd be tied up.

I know I should not care, but it is triggering man flash backs about how I could not bring my mom home and how she passed because of contamination... If I had been old enough to retire I would have.. Hell, it it was January when she fell I could have taken all my PTO... the guilt is overwhelming for me.

[malterre]

This makes me so angry.

[ravena_kade]

Karma will do it's job.