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Feb. 16th, 2026 11:08 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ravena_kadeA weekend of visits.
Friday I went over to DQs and put up a bunch of her framed art for her. I also brought home an antique lamp. It looks art deco bu it's probably from the 50s if I look at the wiring. It's lovely. I have always admired it. I may go over next Friday and put in her bedroom a/c because she keeps tripping on it. She said that she would watch my Dad if my sister bails on me. I may be able to even get her to stay over and sleep in the guest bed in my craft room.
Saturday I went with Dad to see his Sister before the surgery. She's 86 and isn't in great shape. I enjoy her a lot. I like talking to her husband, but he can be an old fart at time .hey wanted to go to eat and picked place in Salem. The food was excellent, but since it was Valentine's Day we had a wait. They said they wanted to help in case my Sister bails. I will take it in the Summer when I need a beach Day. At that point if something goes wrong it's just a call to 911 and send him to Boston.
Yesterday I went to the cousins just to fill them in and see my Aunt. She's 97, and while healthy, she is a fall risk. When her time comes I will never hear my Mother's voice again... Her and my Mother sounded a lot a like. The cousins told me they would help in case my sister bails. It's hard though. They are still dealing with stroke cousin whose behavior is deteriorating.
Stroke cousin's doctors have told her that she will never be able to drive and that she needs to live in assisted living. She refuses to sell her car and is over spending. Her Doctor's actually told her to stop listening to the crappy advice her friends are giving her and listen to her med team. It breaks my heart. She was smart, planned for her retirement, independent and travelled. Now she doesn't bath, won't change her clothes, has burned through her savings account buying junk on Amazon, and argues with her friends and family.
My sister has decided not to bring the dog. Their dog trainer felt that the dog wasn't behaved enough to go for such a long trip. She needs consistency. The dog trainer will take the dog and work with her. While my Sister and her partner are sad they will come home to a better trained dog. The dog will be with 6 other dogs and horses. She will be in a home and just sleep in her crate. It's better for her.
My sister is staying in Braintree. From Braintree to Boston will take them a few hours because they will leave at the highest commute time. All I can say is MORONS. Her partner will not want to come and get her and she will be a giant ball of anxiety when I dig her home on the train. I reiterated the help that was needed. Is she going to be able to get to the house by 5:30 when he comes home? That and on Sunday nights I will require her to sleep over. She will be here a month before Dad can even think of coming home. That is no help. I told her that I will need to beg for help the second month he is home and she leaves.
Today I have to figure out if he can get paid family leave from Massachusetts as his job does not have disability or workman's comp. Someone of the LVad face book page from Massachusetts said I need to create an account with the state before I can even see any of the forms. The Lvad team just told me to go to the website and they should help me. I went and no help. I can't call today as it is a holiday. That and the office closes by the time I get home from work. I need some Money to cover his car, and the various insurance bills. They are about $1000 a month.
Friday I went over to DQs and put up a bunch of her framed art for her. I also brought home an antique lamp. It looks art deco bu it's probably from the 50s if I look at the wiring. It's lovely. I have always admired it. I may go over next Friday and put in her bedroom a/c because she keeps tripping on it. She said that she would watch my Dad if my sister bails on me. I may be able to even get her to stay over and sleep in the guest bed in my craft room.
Saturday I went with Dad to see his Sister before the surgery. She's 86 and isn't in great shape. I enjoy her a lot. I like talking to her husband, but he can be an old fart at time .hey wanted to go to eat and picked place in Salem. The food was excellent, but since it was Valentine's Day we had a wait. They said they wanted to help in case my Sister bails. I will take it in the Summer when I need a beach Day. At that point if something goes wrong it's just a call to 911 and send him to Boston.
Yesterday I went to the cousins just to fill them in and see my Aunt. She's 97, and while healthy, she is a fall risk. When her time comes I will never hear my Mother's voice again... Her and my Mother sounded a lot a like. The cousins told me they would help in case my sister bails. It's hard though. They are still dealing with stroke cousin whose behavior is deteriorating.
Stroke cousin's doctors have told her that she will never be able to drive and that she needs to live in assisted living. She refuses to sell her car and is over spending. Her Doctor's actually told her to stop listening to the crappy advice her friends are giving her and listen to her med team. It breaks my heart. She was smart, planned for her retirement, independent and travelled. Now she doesn't bath, won't change her clothes, has burned through her savings account buying junk on Amazon, and argues with her friends and family.
My sister has decided not to bring the dog. Their dog trainer felt that the dog wasn't behaved enough to go for such a long trip. She needs consistency. The dog trainer will take the dog and work with her. While my Sister and her partner are sad they will come home to a better trained dog. The dog will be with 6 other dogs and horses. She will be in a home and just sleep in her crate. It's better for her.
My sister is staying in Braintree. From Braintree to Boston will take them a few hours because they will leave at the highest commute time. All I can say is MORONS. Her partner will not want to come and get her and she will be a giant ball of anxiety when I dig her home on the train. I reiterated the help that was needed. Is she going to be able to get to the house by 5:30 when he comes home? That and on Sunday nights I will require her to sleep over. She will be here a month before Dad can even think of coming home. That is no help. I told her that I will need to beg for help the second month he is home and she leaves.
Today I have to figure out if he can get paid family leave from Massachusetts as his job does not have disability or workman's comp. Someone of the LVad face book page from Massachusetts said I need to create an account with the state before I can even see any of the forms. The Lvad team just told me to go to the website and they should help me. I went and no help. I can't call today as it is a holiday. That and the office closes by the time I get home from work. I need some Money to cover his car, and the various insurance bills. They are about $1000 a month.
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Date: 2026-02-16 07:53 pm (UTC)Jeez. this sounds Exactly like the 86 year old president of a museum I'm with.
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Date: 2026-02-16 09:50 pm (UTC)It's just so sad. Someone needs to shoot me if I have a stroke.
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Date: 2026-02-16 09:25 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2026-02-17 12:58 am (UTC)It is nice to hear that different people are offering to help you out. :)
The lamp sounds very cool. :)
I hate to say it, but it sounds like the family needs to take legal action to contol stroke cousin. :o :o :o
Your sister and her partner really are Morons. OMg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
HUGS, Jon