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[ravena_kade]

Still feeling punky.

I also feel like I am preparing for a siege.

I think Dad will do okay. I don't think I will.

I spoke to my sister last night. She is not doing what I need. She wants to be here a couple days before Dad goes in so he can meet the dog. Ummm... sigh. But they were planning to start the drive on the Monday and he is going in on the Tuesday so that won't happen. She wants to be here for the surgery and the month he is in the hospital. So she won't be here for half home rehab stuff that I was counting on. She, her partner, and their giant puppy will be annoying me when I need to be at the hospital.

I told her my needs and that I am disappointed.

She is mad that I am not taking the day off for the surgery. I said that I work in the building. I have waited 13 hours in a waiting room for procedures and days worth of hours in ERs. Unless the heart surgeon needs me to pass him the scalpel, I can't be any closer.

And I will now have to beg for help from other people for the second month home. That comes with a price. The cousins love Dad, truly, so I will see if I can tap them. Lead cousin has already said that she would learn to clean his driveline dressings incase I am sick. That puts me in their madness.

I have decided that while she is hanging around I will go out at night while I can.

I have art and cooking projects planned for while he is healing. I know how to be domestic and I dont mind it. It's working and domestics and nursing care... If I were 65 I'd just retire and try selling crafts.

I also know I can gut my small 401k to help save the house if I have to.

Comments

[fbhjr]

Sorry that it's going down this way.

[ravena_kade]

Thank you.

All I can do is come out the other side. Come July I will know where I stand.

[cmcmck]

It confirms my belief in the uselessness of families!

Hugs

[ravena_kade]

I believe that chosen families or tribes are best.

[disneydream06]

I am so sorry that your siste is not being much of any help. :(
I wish I was nearby to be of some help.
HUGS, Jon

[chris_warrior]

i know what it's like to have siblings help out in an effective way... and how it feels to be scraping at the walls of their clueless blind selfishness.

i'm still hoping your sister wakes up and realizes that being there while he's healing is where she can do the most good for everyone involved. WITHOUT the dog.

[ravena_kade]

She won't. She is supported by her partner and that's all that matters. I told her that this whole situation has me feeling steamrolled over.

[chris_warrior]

:( <3 *hug*

[guy_todd]

Unless the heart surgeon needs me to pass him the scalpel, I can't be any closer

Your sister needs—a clue-by-four? Or something stronger. I hope everything goes as well as possible. *hugs*

[ravena_kade]

at 60 years old that will be unlikely.

She is feeling she needs to be there incase something goes south and he dies. Her partner is the logical one, but enables my sister's self centeredness.