This and That.
Jan. 8th, 2025 04:40 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ravena_kadeIt's January. It's cold. My skin hates me. I am dreaming of going anywhere with a touch of humidity. On my budget that's either the produce section of the grocery store when they turn on the veggie sprayers, or the aquarium.
I talked to the boss yesterday about not being able to keep January free of days off. She didn't think it was a problem that I take Friday for the funeral (I would have thought more badly of her she did). The reporting I have done so far gets the 1098 and 1099 reporting done for the members and everything will be sent out by the company that handles ouR computers.
The weird thing is that when we work "together" we work together well. I like that. Yesterday went well. She is just is a sucky teacher...makes my head spin. She also noted that the new guys is on his way out. I just nodded. She asked if I knew what happened Friday. I nodded and said that I could hear (He was on the who with a member and basically told her cancer was no excuse for not being financially responsible and that he doubted she has cancer at all... then he lied and said he never talked to the person when we all heard it) She wants to keep me away from that so that is why she pushes remote. I nodded and said I would get there. I want procedures in place for the invoices and then I will be more comfortable.
The funeral stuff is going on... They want Dad and I at the funeral parlor at 3PM tomorrow. The wake is 4 to 8pm. They want us to have private time...kinda nice, but I was there when they pulled the plug. Dad and I don't get home until 4. I'd like to eat. I told them we would get there as soon as I got home from work.
They want us for the funeral at 8AM. I was asked with snark in a text if I would be going to the funeral since this is not my belief. I said was going and wanted to be there, but not up on an altar. That and my Dad would not go without me. The Mass doesn't start until 10 AM. I can walk to the church from my house. Sigh.
They are now having the 6 year old grandson involved in the theatrical part of the service. He is supposed to sing a song and bring gifts to the altar. Good grief, the kid hasn't even seen the body yet. You don't know how kids will process a dead body.
My Grandfather died when I was 4. We knew and saw how cancer affects a person. We saw the sickness and suffering. We did not understand death. Just that he was gone and everyone was crying. We did not have to attend the wake or funeral. My first funeral was in 1984 and I was a young adult. It was the cousins' Father. I found the wake process a bit tortuous. The grieving family standing next to the dead and trying to be gracious and welcoming when they were trying not to fall apart. It felt cruel to me.
I talked to the boss yesterday about not being able to keep January free of days off. She didn't think it was a problem that I take Friday for the funeral (I would have thought more badly of her she did). The reporting I have done so far gets the 1098 and 1099 reporting done for the members and everything will be sent out by the company that handles ouR computers.
The weird thing is that when we work "together" we work together well. I like that. Yesterday went well. She is just is a sucky teacher...makes my head spin. She also noted that the new guys is on his way out. I just nodded. She asked if I knew what happened Friday. I nodded and said that I could hear (He was on the who with a member and basically told her cancer was no excuse for not being financially responsible and that he doubted she has cancer at all... then he lied and said he never talked to the person when we all heard it) She wants to keep me away from that so that is why she pushes remote. I nodded and said I would get there. I want procedures in place for the invoices and then I will be more comfortable.
The funeral stuff is going on... They want Dad and I at the funeral parlor at 3PM tomorrow. The wake is 4 to 8pm. They want us to have private time...kinda nice, but I was there when they pulled the plug. Dad and I don't get home until 4. I'd like to eat. I told them we would get there as soon as I got home from work.
They want us for the funeral at 8AM. I was asked with snark in a text if I would be going to the funeral since this is not my belief. I said was going and wanted to be there, but not up on an altar. That and my Dad would not go without me. The Mass doesn't start until 10 AM. I can walk to the church from my house. Sigh.
They are now having the 6 year old grandson involved in the theatrical part of the service. He is supposed to sing a song and bring gifts to the altar. Good grief, the kid hasn't even seen the body yet. You don't know how kids will process a dead body.
My Grandfather died when I was 4. We knew and saw how cancer affects a person. We saw the sickness and suffering. We did not understand death. Just that he was gone and everyone was crying. We did not have to attend the wake or funeral. My first funeral was in 1984 and I was a young adult. It was the cousins' Father. I found the wake process a bit tortuous. The grieving family standing next to the dead and trying to be gracious and welcoming when they were trying not to fall apart. It felt cruel to me.
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Date: 2025-01-08 12:16 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2025-01-08 01:24 pm (UTC)You know, I never thought of it that way, but it's spot on. When we stood by my dead dad in a box at his wake, all I could think was, "why do we have to put on a show for these people?"
Anyway, I'm glad you're standing by your principles and not participating in the religiosity.
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Date: 2025-01-08 03:12 pm (UTC)Excuse my language, but who the bloody hell is planning this show?
I sure hope they aren't going to traumatize that kid. :o
Well, if they don't fire the new guy after that fiasco, they deserve the mess. :o
The dude is nuts. :o :o :o
If you can find some humidity, will you PLEASE share it with me. LOL.......
Hugs, Jon
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Date: 2025-01-08 04:49 pm (UTC)Well, that's..."Good"...to hear and know.
As for the wake & funeral, you have my condolences and sympathies. Yeah, the whole process is weird.
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Date: 2025-01-08 06:42 pm (UTC)