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[ravena_kade]

Dad is doing fine. The change in medicine is holding things together. Not sure for how long. I am not doing fine. I am overwhelmed ..and when overwhelmed I freeze and accomplish NOTHING. I asked the hospital social worker if they knew if the patient could apply for paid family leave for themselves. They said yes. I asked how. They said that they didn't know. Maybe the state could help me. Someone said that his boss should know. I asked the boss. She said to ask the hospital. I get home after 4 PM...the state offices hours end at 4. I can't call during work. I asked the hospital if the operation was covered by insurance. They said Medicare covers it. Um...okay. I asked if I could get help for Dad's meds as 2 of them are mortgage payments even with insurance so he can't quit working. They found a charity that will send me $1000.00. I asked for help in reducing the cost of the meds. They said that they didn't know how to do that. I am exhausted. I have been told caregivers need sleep. Ha! People are calling me at 10 PM to find out how Dad is. FOR F's SAKE, LET ME SLEEP. Tomorrow Dad tries to renew his license. Fingers crossed. My sister is coming here next week with her partner. I am not up for company at all. I really need to clean my apartment, but I keep getting interrupted.

Comments

[guy_todd]

Good gawd I do not know how you are coping with all this...my head would have exploded many days ago. :(

[ravena_kade]

My coping mechanisms right now are to hide and ignore. Not a great strategy.

[malterre]

DO NOT let your sister make things more complicated.
*hugs*

[ravena_kade]

The fact that no one will tell me what they are doing but rely on me to be the linch pin is driving me nuts. She is trying to be helpful, but Dad won't do anything with her unless I am there.

[disneydream06]

That is crazy. The hospital should be able to answer all your questions. :o :o :o
Does your dad's work place have an HR department? Because they should be able to answer FMLA questions too because if you meet the qualifications you are still at the mercy of your employer to okay getting FMLA which pisses me off. Employers should have no say in it what so ever. :o :o :o
I hope you can get a breather soon.
HUGS, Jon

[chris_warrior]

all of this. the fact hat the hospital isn't working with you on meds and your other questions is awful. and i hope you can use some of your weekend off to enjoy yourself, even if you feel like you also have to clean.

one would also think your boss would be more understanding and helpful, given she's skipped out on work to be with her parents MANY TIMES.

[disneydream06]

That's so true about your boss. :o

Another thought, the hospital should have a social worker, I would think, to be helping with all this stuff. :o

[ravena_kade]

I spoke to the social worker. She said I had excellent questions and that I should contact the State. She sounded like she was 12 and reading off a script.

[ravena_kade]

Dad works for a small business. The boss knows she pays into FLMA but does not know how workers access it. No one has used it before.

[disneydream06]

UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[brickhousewench]

Dad is doing fine.

Yay!

I am not doing fine.

Boo! I'm so sorry, it's a lot to bear.

[house_wren]

I'm so sorry this is what is going on. Especially the bureaucracy part - it's crazy making for sure. Why is life so weird? Why are people so difficult? (Those are rhetorical questions.)
Hoping you can get a good sleep.