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[ravena_kade]

So Thursday the sick cousin was transferred to the Big Boston Hospital. She is not in the building I work in, but just down the block. The oldest sister (who does not live with the group) met Me and my Dad at the diner for dinner and brought my Aunt. My poor aunt is trying to process what is going on while getting yelled at tp drink, eat, and not forget things. She was making no sense. Eldest cousin kept trying to correct her. I told her to stop. It was okay. My poor aunt thought I was supposed to meet the youngest daughter and taker her somewhere. She was confused. It was the Lead daughter who had to pick up the youngest daughter and go back to Boston to visit with the sick sister. I told my aunt I texted the youngest and she was okay, she was with her sister. My Aunt just got confused as they told her she was meeting Jen (me) and she thought they said Val was meeting Jen. No need to make this a bug deal Oi. Im just happy my aunt still knows who I am will have a conversation with me.

Friday in work I get a call telling me what sick cousin has again and that they are cancelling the giant family trip...umm...24 other people are going, maybe one of the people going would take the lead. Nope. She said people would be too upset to go. Ummmm... my Mother died and everyone left me and Dad to go to Florida.
Oh well. My Dad is very sad. This trip has been very hyped up. They are going to have a gathering for my Aunts 95th, but cant say what weekend. I had to tell Dad and my Sister that their trip was cancelled.

They are starting rounds of chemo on the cousin today. Things were worse than what the sisters said last Sunday. I knew that. The calcium was like I thought...bone dissolving and being dumped into the blood. They did tell them that there was no cure but this cancer is easily maintained with treatment.

I will ask if visitors are allowed and if so I will see cousin after work on Tuesday. Maybe bring her food if she can eat.

I am making Easter dinner next week. Nothing traditional. My crock pot pulled pork, crock pot baked beans, coleslaw and deviled eggs. The fussiest things are the deviled eggs.


I'm bummed as I had started making me plans for when Dad was away. Oh well. If cousin does well with her treatment maybe they will go away in the summer and Dad can go with them.

Comments

[fbhjr]

Sad you keep having to pick up their pieces and do things like tell your dad.
I know it is far too late for them to stop being selfish as they are, but it is still sad.

[ravena_kade]

I know I really don't have to, but I accepted the task.

and maybe this situation will teach them see things differently.

[gwendraith]

You have the patience of a saint! 😇

Fingers crossed your dad can go away in the summer and give you some quality time on your own.

[fionaniconnor]

Seriously. I would have poisoned all of these people by now.

[ravena_kade]

I have been tempted...but my Dad likes being with them.

[fionaniconnor]

Girl, there ain't a court in the land would give you more than a slap on the wrist.

[malterre]

*points up*

[brickhousewench]

they are cancelling the giant family trip...umm...24 other people are going, maybe one of the people going would take the lead

Sounds like maybe they're too overwhelmed to even think about how to hand it off to someone else. Too bad though, that's disappointing a lot of people.

[ravena_kade]

I found out that their North Carolina brother will come up here to help and visit during that time. That will be good for lead cousin.

Everyone else but my Dad and Sister have booked to go away someplace else because they didn't want to give up a vacation.

[brickhousewench]

Everyone else but my Dad and Sister have booked to go away someplace else because they didn't want to give up a vacation.

Good for them. Vacations are necessary for your mental and physical health.

[disneydream06]

I am sorry to hear about the trip being cancelled. :(

Have they considered having your aunt looked at for the confusion?
Maybe she has some blood/chemistry levels off that is causing the confusion. :o

HUGS, Jon

[ravena_kade]

My Aunts Doctors have said that the confusion is from her not drinking fluids. She makes more sense when she does have enough fluids She doesn't drink a lot because she doesn't want to have to get up at night to use the bathroom and refuses to wear depends. The cousins are constantly pushing her to drink.

Personally I would offer her soups...she likes to eat and homemade soups are not hard to do. I think homemade soup is magic =)

[disneydream06]

I think by not drinking enough your calcium goes up and that's not good. :(

[malterre]

I wish you a happy Easter and I am glad you are hoping to come with us to Wheaton :)