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Nov. 6th, 2023 05:44 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ravena_kadeThe weekend was long and full. Too full. I only needed half of it.
Saturday Dad took me to his work because the shop next store was having a huge clothing sale. I need interview clothes so off we went. I was able to get a lovely jacket to go with dress pants for only, a great tunic blouse, really nice dress pants (that need a hem) and 2 other pairs as well. All for $150. A good use of the money I was paid for the photo shoot nightmare.
Sadly because of traffic it took us 2 hours to get home.
Then we get a call that one of the cousins cant make a murder mystery dinner and they wan me to take her place. Dad was scheduled to go as I hoped to go to Delaware with Phoenix Swords, but I needed to be at work Friday for the lay off event. We were at the cousins at 3... I found out that dinner was until 6 and that they were going to visit the construction site of their nieces new house. The afternoon was burnt.
The murder mystery itself was fine. The food ok. The cast was really really good. I just couldn't get too into it as it was all based on Downton Abby and I didnt watch that show. I also probably couldn't get into it because my brain is still on stress mode. We didn't get home until after 10.
Yesterday was full too, but better at the end.
The first part was the Sunday trek to the cousins... because that's what Dad likes to do on a Sunday. Ive told him I will not be going very week. I am not in the mood. I stopped by the sick cousins room to see how she was doing (bad back) She started grilling me on the job hunt. The stupidity coming out of a bank Vice Presidents mouth amazes me. She is trying to tell me that my severance wont be taxed at a higher rate. Unn...yes...been through this before. It is. Then she says I should have had it directly deposited into my 401k. ...Umm...I need to live. Then she keeps trying to tell me to look for jobs in Worcester and Rhode Island. Umm... Even if there were jobs there with they way I have to travel on trains and busses I would have a 6 hour
commute. And even then most of the train stations aren't by anything, Id have to walk out of there and then find an office park on foot. She was upsetting... so I asked if her bank is looking for help. Oh they only want experienced people. Basically I was doing the put up or shut up move. Her bank is someplace I could get to easily in Winchester. I then left her room as said that I hoped her back wasn't too painful tomorrow for her drive to work... if I had a voodoo doll...
Then I went in the living room while the rest watched football. I had my iPad and was looking at jobs on indeed. The younger cousin asked me how my lay off day went and asked if was looking at jobs... I said the day went fine and I have started applying. Dad said that I applied to where she worked and I wanted to kick him. I asked if she knew anything about PL operations. She said no and that she couldn't help me with anything... She's been there since 2018 and is well liked. She could ask around, but I have always said she wouldn't. Dad just needed to hear that. Late I asked Dad if he now really understood that these people will not help but only Criticize. Ma was not wrong. They are family and that's fine I know who they are, but I am not being up their ass with you. He was disappointed.
At 5 I went to the Animal Shelter Banquet. It was fun. The meal was really good. The ladies I sat with understood my position of needing a job but needing to get Dad to the doctors. They have done it with their parents and one lost a husband to cancer last year. Her advice was to pretend Im retired until Dad has his surgery on Thursday . Oh I wish I was... It was a good night with laughter and some wine. Very nice.
Today I need to sign up for unemployment. Will try it on line.
Saturday Dad took me to his work because the shop next store was having a huge clothing sale. I need interview clothes so off we went. I was able to get a lovely jacket to go with dress pants for only, a great tunic blouse, really nice dress pants (that need a hem) and 2 other pairs as well. All for $150. A good use of the money I was paid for the photo shoot nightmare.
Sadly because of traffic it took us 2 hours to get home.
Then we get a call that one of the cousins cant make a murder mystery dinner and they wan me to take her place. Dad was scheduled to go as I hoped to go to Delaware with Phoenix Swords, but I needed to be at work Friday for the lay off event. We were at the cousins at 3... I found out that dinner was until 6 and that they were going to visit the construction site of their nieces new house. The afternoon was burnt.
The murder mystery itself was fine. The food ok. The cast was really really good. I just couldn't get too into it as it was all based on Downton Abby and I didnt watch that show. I also probably couldn't get into it because my brain is still on stress mode. We didn't get home until after 10.
Yesterday was full too, but better at the end.
The first part was the Sunday trek to the cousins... because that's what Dad likes to do on a Sunday. Ive told him I will not be going very week. I am not in the mood. I stopped by the sick cousins room to see how she was doing (bad back) She started grilling me on the job hunt. The stupidity coming out of a bank Vice Presidents mouth amazes me. She is trying to tell me that my severance wont be taxed at a higher rate. Unn...yes...been through this before. It is. Then she says I should have had it directly deposited into my 401k. ...Umm...I need to live. Then she keeps trying to tell me to look for jobs in Worcester and Rhode Island. Umm... Even if there were jobs there with they way I have to travel on trains and busses I would have a 6 hour
commute. And even then most of the train stations aren't by anything, Id have to walk out of there and then find an office park on foot. She was upsetting... so I asked if her bank is looking for help. Oh they only want experienced people. Basically I was doing the put up or shut up move. Her bank is someplace I could get to easily in Winchester. I then left her room as said that I hoped her back wasn't too painful tomorrow for her drive to work... if I had a voodoo doll...
Then I went in the living room while the rest watched football. I had my iPad and was looking at jobs on indeed. The younger cousin asked me how my lay off day went and asked if was looking at jobs... I said the day went fine and I have started applying. Dad said that I applied to where she worked and I wanted to kick him. I asked if she knew anything about PL operations. She said no and that she couldn't help me with anything... She's been there since 2018 and is well liked. She could ask around, but I have always said she wouldn't. Dad just needed to hear that. Late I asked Dad if he now really understood that these people will not help but only Criticize. Ma was not wrong. They are family and that's fine I know who they are, but I am not being up their ass with you. He was disappointed.
At 5 I went to the Animal Shelter Banquet. It was fun. The meal was really good. The ladies I sat with understood my position of needing a job but needing to get Dad to the doctors. They have done it with their parents and one lost a husband to cancer last year. Her advice was to pretend Im retired until Dad has his surgery on Thursday . Oh I wish I was... It was a good night with laughter and some wine. Very nice.
Today I need to sign up for unemployment. Will try it on line.
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Date: 2023-11-06 06:54 pm (UTC)I hope you find something suitable soon.
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Date: 2023-11-06 06:57 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2023-11-07 05:07 am (UTC)I would kill for retirement. ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hugs, Jon
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Date: 2023-11-07 10:15 am (UTC)And while Dad is a bit of a sheep and likes the group. I am more my Mother. I prefer sht3 to 4 hour visits and then leave.
The other issue is that they want me pulling in cash to take care of Dad because they have more of an interest in him. So my ability to care/provide for him overrides my own need c=for care.
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Date: 2023-11-07 01:30 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2023-11-07 01:59 pm (UTC)Dad likes them so he isn't lonely and they are my ride to the various hospital appointments.
I just have to pay the emotional price. I never though he would have health issues until I was 62 and I could just go part time and take him via Uber.
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Date: 2023-11-07 03:45 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2023-11-07 06:33 pm (UTC)But glad you had fun with the shelter folks
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Date: 2023-11-12 12:13 am (UTC)