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[ravena_kade]

I am being let go. Last Day is Nov 3, but I have PTO that day So November 2.

I just dont know what to do where I am Dad's caretaker. He isn't able intellectually to navigate his medical situation. IF I were 62 Id take Social security early and get a part time job... but Im too young. I don't know what would be a good job with all these appointments that are necessary to keep him alive.

Sigh.

The cowards couldn't do it when I was in the office. COWARDS.

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[guy_todd]

They are letting go the only employee who can do their job? Fucking brilliant. *hugs*

[ravena_kade]

I told the team lead to let me know if she has questions...I dont want her crucified because I like her... but Im not driving the training bus here.

I just want to work in a ceramic shop and paint =(

[siduri1959]

Wow, I am sorry. I hope things work out and you find something that makes you happy.

[gwendraith]

Idiots for letting you go, I forsee problems for them because no one else will bend over backwards for them like you do. I really hope you manage to find a suitable part time job that you like and which allows you the time your dad needs. If your dad didn't have you how would he manage? Are there any outside agencies that help with hospital appointments and such with the elderly? *Hugs*

[ravena_kade]

Dad doesnt qualify for any aid because he still works... and outwardly is competent. He just doesnt understand things. So no help

He would have died back in October.

I have my Mother's death on my conscience, my Dad's on top of that isn't good.

[gwendraith]

You shouldn't have your mother's death on your conscience, you did all you could and it's perhaps time to stop blaming yourself. Your mother would hate to think you were still suffering with these thoughts. As for your dad no one (NO ONE) could do more for him than you. When he evtually goes it won't be on you. He is old and very sick and you have kept him going. I think you need grief counselling and I bet you haven't had any. Do take care of you, you do not deserve to be so unhappy all the time. I'm sure you have many friends here who will be more than happy to talk with you, including me. x

[malterre]

Just popping in to "thumbs up" this comment

[fbhjr]

I agree on the coward part.

[house_wren]

Omigod. I'm so sorry. Sending you a big hug.

[fionaniconnor]

Oh, wow. That is so shitty. I'm sorry, love.

[ravena_kade]

Thank you

I'll be okay. Dad...probably not.

[fionaniconnor]

Your father needs to stop working.
I understand that he does not want to stop but his job is killing him more quickly, and when you say he does not qualify for any benefits because he is still working then that right there would make me put down my foot and stop him from working.


I have said this before and I apparently have to say it again - you cannot pour from an empty cup. You need help, Jen. You need help with managing your father and you need help taking some stuff off of your own plate.
I learnt the hard way that trying to take on everything and do all the work for all the people is BAD FOR YOU.

I understand the guilt you feel about your mother and the guilt you do and will feel about your father, believe me. So if my experience can teach you anything, it is that you need to let some shit go.

I know moping around on social media helps you get some stuff off your chest- I've used it that way too- but you need real, legitimate, professional help here. Help with Dad, help with navigating tough medical stuff, help navigating transportation for Dad, help from your sister (who does not help because "oh Jen will do it," by the way- fucking stand up to her and make her pitch in). Have a come to Jesus meeting with the family who feeds your father shitty food and if he says he will just go over there, take away his keys.
Start applying NOW for new jobs, for assistance for Dad. None of this will be any easier when you are no longer employed, shitty severance package or no.


For what it's worth, my company does hire remote customer care agents. www.win-waste.com/careers

The pay is decent for the work and the benefits- including elder care assistance!!!- are great.

I say these things out of love and from the viewpoint of someone who has burnt herself out on parental care. I want you to thrive.

[palusbuteo]

I am sorry but at the same time, it made me think of when I was laid off after the fallout of the 2008 Second Great Depression

it was a mixed blessing.

It became a miserable place to work, the supervisors and managers were fucking morons, and we all got a nice pay cut for 2 years, except for the exec staff. because of course.

Joke's on them. They apparently got sold/bought out by another company about a year or 2 after I was let go.

Ironic because I left a shittier job to go to this new place, and the new place installed the "for sale" signs for the old place as they in turn shut down and canned all their employees about 2 years into me being at the new place...which is when the stupid shit started happening at the new place.
Gooooo Figure.

So yes, Cowards. Idiots. This is why America sucks.

I hope you can find something better and soon.

[disneydream06]

OH NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so sorry. :o
I am sending positive vibes your way.
HUGS, Jon

[brickhousewench]

Oh crap. I'm so sorry. That sucks. =(

[ravena_kade]

I was hoping I would get to see phase 2 and move my accounts to the new system...then I figured id be let go,

They dont have room at State St for everyone so .. the boss doesn't value me so I was picked. It wasn't said that way...a script was read and then she hung up on me crying.

The next day no one asked if I would be okay or nothing.

[brickhousewench]

Your company, your boss, and most of your coworkers just suck. The only good thing about that job was the paycheck. You deserve so much better.