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[ravena_kade]

It's been a rough week.

Dad is on a fluid restriction. He is miserable. So thirsty.

All I do is measure measure measure.


Tuesday I had a one on one meeting with the Boston boss, but she wasn't in. She called in and did it remote. I said I was uncomfortable speaking because there was no privacy for e sitting at my desk. She made in insinuation that I wasn't busy enough... I reminded her that I needed to start many Days at 4 AM just to get everything done. She says I need to take things away from her favorite so that person can learn more important things and develop. So I said so is it that my functions are not important or do you just not want to develop me? I didnt get an answer.

I called the team lead and let her know how my one one one went. She said "WHAT"

Then minutes after that I read that someone I knew had passed. You though she was doing better. She has what my Dad has. I know he is on borrowed time.

Tomorrow I am starting work at 3:30 Am because Dad had a follow up with teh heart failure clinic tomorrow and I have to cover for the team lead. There is another appointment for Dad on Monday so I will be starting at 3:30 again. Bah.

The home owners insurance people what to do a home inspection. Every day they picked I have to go with to a Doctor's appointment. I asked the woman about her schedule so we could pick a date and she said that she doesnt know what her schedule is until a day or 2 before. I said that I have an elder with many doctor's appointments so I need to be able to schedule. That and I work over 40 hours a week. You just cant drop in. She said she call me back. I hope that I wont loose the house insurance over this. Just what I need, one more worry.

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[fionaniconnor]

I've told you this before, and I'll tell you again:

Look into respite care. Seriously. This is burning you out and I TOTALLY get it. Absolutely understand.

But because I get it, I desperately want you to heed my advice and get some help with your father. There are visiting nurses and home health aides who can do some of this stuff for you.
I know you don't trust the medical establishment and I understand why, but, girl, you are killing yourself with the stress and martyrdom.

Get help for yourself or you will not be able to help your father.

When we were dealing with all of my Dad's stuff like this, we had a HUGE family network to call upon for help. You obviously don't, so use the resources available to you otherwise.
Get. Help.

The hospital has social and case workers for this. TELL THEM YOU NEED HELP CARING FOR YOUR FATHER. There are networks and safety nets in place for this kind of thing. Please, let them help you help yourself and help him.

[ravena_kade]

I know that you are right.

The thing is that Dad is still working full time and driving. He doesnt need physical help like that. He is like an 8 year old with a driver's license and money. He keeps his house tidy. He just forgets his 5 AM meds and wants to eat out often. I've looked at remade meals and he wont eat most of them. He does stupid things...but not at work. It would be easier if my Sister lived in this state. The cousins say they will look after Dad but they eat food that will kill him. Frankly I think he'll only have a few years if he doesn't stop with the diner food and take out with the cousins.

I need someone with muscle to help me get what I need done. My friends are too far away and family is all not in any shape to do any lifting. Ill have to pay for it. The house is just too large for me to do all the up keep, but I dont want to sell or move to a shared space with him. I still occasionally hope for some sexy time...yup dream on ;-)

I asked the contractor cousin if he could give me a rough estimate on the square foot of the house so I can get house painting quotes. I thought he could help with a ball park figure because be did the gutters and flashing on the house and had to apply for permits to do that and the deck. He said I should just measure. He lives 2 blocks from you...do you think he could help me measure. No. I'm tossing yarn balls out my top floor windows to try and get the height.


I am trying to take time to paint and walk the house beach when I can. I am incredibly disappointed that I could not go on the beach trip. We would have left this coming Thursday =( I am going to see Barbara in May and go to NHRF. When the MBTA gets on track I will be going to Rockport and Ipswich and those are my happy places.

[disneydream06]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

Boston Boss is an ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And obviously she just want to make life easier for her favorite. ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't suppose there is anything your team lead can do about it?

Can your dad suck on hard candies to create saliva, or use that artificial spray stuff(sorry I can't think of the name) to at least keep his mouth moist?

I hope the insurance lady can figure something out.
It shouldn't have to be you. :o
Hugs, Jon

[guy_todd]

I know it's bad karma, but I want TERRIBLE THINGS to happen to your boss. Bonus if they are embarrassing as well.

[brickhousewench]

I hope that I wont loose the house insurance over this.

I have never had a home inspection for insurance. I can't remember my parents ever having a home inspection for insurance. Curious to know why and what they need to inspect? It just sounds odd unless it's related to a claim you are putting in?

[ravena_kade]

Many places do it now. This place does it every 3 years. During covid they did an outside inspection only. The last time they came in the sent a letter saying they did not like teh brand of smoke detector that we use and we would have to change them by the next inspection.

My friend who lost her husband in 2019 had one and they made her paint and clear out storage areas.

The woman has not called me back either to set up an appointment. Im here 3 days a week except for Dad's medical appointments.

[brickhousewench]

Ugh, I hate having strangers in my house. I'm glad my insurance company doesn't do inspections.