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Feb. 25th, 2023 11:45 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ravena_kadeMy Dad's heart issues and the stupidity of work are giving me an unhealthy relationship with food. Its also hard as a major source of entertainment for me since I was little has been cooking shows. I watched Julia Child and The Galloping Gourmet with my Mom and Grandmother.
To combat the unhappy bland dinners ...made more blah by being furious from the work day... I have bought some normal things for my upstairs kitchen. The thing is that I grab food when I am upset and working from at home. I went through some deli ham in 3 days... It was emotional support ham... funny...sad... and can I have more.
Last week I made some Brussels sprouts, healthy...with bacon... not too bad. But then I just had some bacon...and some how I salted the bacon...OMG...it felt like sin it was so good. Yeah...not good.
Yesterday I ate a bag of chips and had chocolate for lunch and dinner. Made him a salad.
Last night I saw a small 2 pound gray corned beef... part of me wanted it just for me. The other part said no, it would not be fair bring it in the house and he could not have it (EVER). But now I want to go back and see if it is there. It was $24. It's sad but he can not eat any of the foods I associate with holidays/celebrations.
Then today we are going to a family dinner out and there is NOTHING low sodium on the menu for him. NOTHING. And to top it off his weight went up over a pound overnight and that could be fluid around his heart... but he still wants to eat restaurant food today and tomorrow when we head to the cousins.... and he expects me to figure out what he can eat. I dont even want to go eat now.
Then if he is putting on fluid Im supposed to call the doctor, but they dont call you back right away and every time get a phone call during the week its whenI am on the phone for work and when I can call back Im on hold for hours.
This week and next I have to go into the bank every day because there are people for Europe that need to sit with me for a new computer system but I am to be at their side at the snap of a finger... no scheduled meetings.
I am screwed if Dad needs to go back in the hospital to be drained of fluid. All I can think of is the old Willie Wonka movie where they had to "juice" Violet Beauregarde because she filled up with juice.
To combat the unhappy bland dinners ...made more blah by being furious from the work day... I have bought some normal things for my upstairs kitchen. The thing is that I grab food when I am upset and working from at home. I went through some deli ham in 3 days... It was emotional support ham... funny...sad... and can I have more.
Last week I made some Brussels sprouts, healthy...with bacon... not too bad. But then I just had some bacon...and some how I salted the bacon...OMG...it felt like sin it was so good. Yeah...not good.
Yesterday I ate a bag of chips and had chocolate for lunch and dinner. Made him a salad.
Last night I saw a small 2 pound gray corned beef... part of me wanted it just for me. The other part said no, it would not be fair bring it in the house and he could not have it (EVER). But now I want to go back and see if it is there. It was $24. It's sad but he can not eat any of the foods I associate with holidays/celebrations.
Then today we are going to a family dinner out and there is NOTHING low sodium on the menu for him. NOTHING. And to top it off his weight went up over a pound overnight and that could be fluid around his heart... but he still wants to eat restaurant food today and tomorrow when we head to the cousins.... and he expects me to figure out what he can eat. I dont even want to go eat now.
Then if he is putting on fluid Im supposed to call the doctor, but they dont call you back right away and every time get a phone call during the week its whenI am on the phone for work and when I can call back Im on hold for hours.
This week and next I have to go into the bank every day because there are people for Europe that need to sit with me for a new computer system but I am to be at their side at the snap of a finger... no scheduled meetings.
I am screwed if Dad needs to go back in the hospital to be drained of fluid. All I can think of is the old Willie Wonka movie where they had to "juice" Violet Beauregarde because she filled up with juice.
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Date: 2023-02-25 05:57 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2023-02-26 02:06 pm (UTC)I was able t ask if they'd just make up a salad with iceberg lettuce (he wont eat anything else) and they did. I'll just bring a small container of dressing he can have.
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Date: 2023-02-26 12:50 am (UTC)I wish I had some answers for you. :(
Is your dad on a diuretic to help get rid of fluid?
When you say he can't eat holiday foods, is he able to eat turkey? That shouldn't be salty.
Hugs, Jon
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Date: 2023-02-26 01:41 pm (UTC)The hard part is that he wants to go out to eat 4 out of 7 days a week. If he did 1 day it would be okay.
He is on a diuretic. I need to see if I can up the dose. He is on the lowest. He also could be just getting to a normal weight for him.
Lots of my traditional holiday foods are corned beef, smoked shoulder, lasagna, ham, lobster and shrimp. A cream cheese and olive spread has been passed down since before my great great grandmother..although I think finding out that being defended from Salem witches is way cooler than an olive spread ;-)
He can eat turkey, but when you go to a restaurant they may brine the turkey before cooking. Or, if its a butterball turkey it is injected with fat and salt. The big box stores also inject their chicken breasts with a sodium solution.
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Date: 2023-02-26 04:32 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2023-02-26 12:38 pm (UTC)Also >hugs<
JFHC. IF / When you ever get a hold of (his) doctor, you need to explain to him the problems YOUR having with your health trying to manage your Dad's, maybe just maybe they'll sit HIM down and explain to him that he HAS to be more involved with his OWN health because he is drowning you with him.
The Loads of Salt & HFCS In Everything World we're forced to live in is driving me nuts, too.
None of us should be consuming these levels, but there's also a part of me that things some amount of salt, butter, fat, etc is necessary, why else would our bodies crave it so hard. And yeah, I'm a child of the 80s & 90s were "Fat" was EVIL, and I STILL have issues with butter and cutting off fat from meat, etc to this day. I have increased my intake of oil fat (olive oil) When we were teens and my parents were under a high cholesterol / high blood pressure regime, we all got to (suffer) egg-beaters and I Can't Believe It Not Boddur and other substitutes. It wasn't fun but we managed, I guess. Sorry, I'm not sure what to say to "help" your situtation.
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Date: 2023-02-26 01:41 pm (UTC)Oh yes, I remember the "fat is evil days" Thankfully my Mom didnt get into that. She was a stay at home Mom and cooked us Sunday dinners every day of the week. We would have a whole roast turkey on a Thursday night...sometimes in August ...oi... but she was a good good cook. They only thing she ever cut down on was having potatoes with every meal.
The thing is his going out 4 out of 7 days a week. I shouldn't care..if he wants to die for pizza, go ahead, but he is tied into the house finances so it adds another level of worry for me and he never believed in life insurance so I have no cushion.
What I need to is talk to people who are decent fait land lords (rare, I know) and find out how I should be preparing to put an apartment up for rent if I need to in a short notice.