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Dec. 26th, 2022 09:00 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ravena_kadeI have to say that Christmas to me is really isnt Christmas Day. Its the time with friends mostly before and the craft shows where things I make now become part of someone's Christas tradition. I did see friends on the 10th and I was able to do 2 craft shows so I DID get to express my Christmas.
Christmas even was thrown off. Dad went to breakfast with the cousins and then went over their house to watch football and would then go over to another cousins for Christmas eve festivities. I would visit 2 older friends for a quiet night (since they have lost all their family).
Before I left I received a call from the visiting nurse people. Dad had gained 2 pounds. I said that I believed it was because he went to a Christmas party and has been enjoying food. The woman went off on me... she claims you don't gain weight like that. It must be heart failure. Ummm...I put on 4 pounds this week and I don't have heart failure. She went on to reprimand me and said that if Dad had a piece of ham he would die. She said she has a patient that she saw one da and he was fine...had no fluid and had good BP... the woman left the doctors office went and had a cup of clam chowder for dinner and died because of the sodium.
Well this call put me in a mood. I called Dad and told him what she said and I made him say out loud "I cannot have any sodium" so the cousins would hear. He said he felt fine. He said that he felt no fluid build up.
When I came home that night I found him in the living room upset. The Christmas eve dinner was a ham. They decided not to make the turkey. There was nothing but lettuce in a salad that was no sodium. A cousin found a can of tuna and washed it and put dry tuna on lettuce. I felt bad and cooked him a dinner.
Christmas day was chaos at the cousins. They all watched football. I put a video on my phone and watched with headphones on and then I napped. Dad likes the holidays at the cousins. I feel like an alien. They did have food dad could eat and he could have pie so he was happy. I was okay when we could leave
Today I went with Dad to work. The shop is moving from one city to another. I have helped Dad move the business (when it was owned by someone else) twice before so I thought I could be his hands while he supervised. The boss bought cold cuts for lunch. I was happy I made Dad a low sum lunch at home and just put it in my bag so he could eat healthy. He was happy to be back in work and in charge. I am very tired.
Tomorrow the team leader is out so I have to start working at 3:30 AM. Oi.
Christmas even was thrown off. Dad went to breakfast with the cousins and then went over their house to watch football and would then go over to another cousins for Christmas eve festivities. I would visit 2 older friends for a quiet night (since they have lost all their family).
Before I left I received a call from the visiting nurse people. Dad had gained 2 pounds. I said that I believed it was because he went to a Christmas party and has been enjoying food. The woman went off on me... she claims you don't gain weight like that. It must be heart failure. Ummm...I put on 4 pounds this week and I don't have heart failure. She went on to reprimand me and said that if Dad had a piece of ham he would die. She said she has a patient that she saw one da and he was fine...had no fluid and had good BP... the woman left the doctors office went and had a cup of clam chowder for dinner and died because of the sodium.
Well this call put me in a mood. I called Dad and told him what she said and I made him say out loud "I cannot have any sodium" so the cousins would hear. He said he felt fine. He said that he felt no fluid build up.
When I came home that night I found him in the living room upset. The Christmas eve dinner was a ham. They decided not to make the turkey. There was nothing but lettuce in a salad that was no sodium. A cousin found a can of tuna and washed it and put dry tuna on lettuce. I felt bad and cooked him a dinner.
Christmas day was chaos at the cousins. They all watched football. I put a video on my phone and watched with headphones on and then I napped. Dad likes the holidays at the cousins. I feel like an alien. They did have food dad could eat and he could have pie so he was happy. I was okay when we could leave
Today I went with Dad to work. The shop is moving from one city to another. I have helped Dad move the business (when it was owned by someone else) twice before so I thought I could be his hands while he supervised. The boss bought cold cuts for lunch. I was happy I made Dad a low sum lunch at home and just put it in my bag so he could eat healthy. He was happy to be back in work and in charge. I am very tired.
Tomorrow the team leader is out so I have to start working at 3:30 AM. Oi.
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Date: 2022-12-27 10:17 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2022-12-27 12:13 pm (UTC)i had high BP all weekend and had to tell my sister several times that i didn't feel well enough to eat, and was worried because of my BP and what the doctor said, and each time my sister sort of made it weird, like i was dissing her and not the food. but i can't believe your cousin, knowing your father was in the hospital for heart failure made a HAM, and didn't plan something for him to eat that was just as special. it's the worst expression of Christmas spirit i've read in a long time. i mean, how would she have felt if he ate the ham and his BP spiked and there was an issue? WTH.
i'm so sorry you're going through all this, Jen. <3
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Date: 2022-12-27 11:07 am (UTC)On the other hand, you should report that witch.
I don't care what her intentions were, that is NOT how you go about it.
I would love for her to prove that a cup of chowder killed a woman. WTF!!!!!
HUGS, Jon
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Date: 2022-12-28 12:45 am (UTC)Hang in there dear one.
Hugs, Helen
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Date: 2022-12-29 07:52 pm (UTC)Same, it's eating season. People gain wait over the holidays. It doesn't mean we're all going to suddenly drop dead.
WTF with the visiting nurse?
First, why would you scare someone like that over the holidays?
Second, she should have been talking to your dad, he's the one who is making bad food choices (you can try cooking for him, but in the end he decides what he's going to eat).
And wow, your cousins.
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Date: 2022-12-29 07:58 pm (UTC)Everything come through me. When he first came home I wanted to throw my phone in the garbage disposal.
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Date: 2022-12-29 11:01 pm (UTC)Oh I know, I felt so bad about all the phone calls you were getting. It sounded completely crazy making.
But health care proxy just means you can make decisions when he's incapacitated/sick/unconscious. It doesn't mean that you have to make all the decisions for him. And it definitely doesn't mean that you are responsible for what he puts in his mouth when he's UP AND OUT OF THE HOUSE. I would have told that woman to call him on his own phone and yell at him instead of you.
I'm so sorry this is so much work and stress for you. =(