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Dec. 16th, 2022 03:44 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ravena_kadeI have not been sleeping well. Last night I may have slept about 2 hours tops. I have a lot of anxiety and frankly fear.
I am afraid I am not taking care of my Father correctly, but no one will tell me what to do. His blood pressure is all over the place...mostly low. They said when they released him on December 1 that the meds would increase his BP. Im not sure how as 4 of the 3 are fluid pills and they lower BP.
I had to spend 2 hours on the phone about his arrhythmia medication. The pharmacy wont release it until its approved by an insurance company but he does not have a prescription insurance so it must be paid for out of pocket...$700.00. I wouldn't mind that I have had this conversation many time with the hospital pharmacy. Each time a different person answers the phone. Each time I need to go over it again and again.
On Nov 30th I signed Dad up for an insurance plan for January 1, but I have not received a bill or cards. I dont know how this works at all. I wanted the bill paid from his social security but I have received mail stating that social security may take 3 months to pay so I should pay any bills, but I dont have a bill to pay. I will have to take time off of work to try and call but I dont have an id or group plan number or anything. I may not be able to get anyone to help me.
On Sunday a friend that I hadn't seen in a long time was supposed to drop by as he was traveling very close to my house. I was looking forward to the visit. He texted me and said that maybe he shouldn't drop by as he had been traveling and in the public and he was afraid he could bring covid into the house and my Dad is still recuperating and I am the care giver. I asked him to please come. He said it wasn't wise. No it wouldn't be wise. I am sad he didnt come.
I feel like I am in limbo and getting no info is raising a lot of anxiety. Is Dad frail? He seems okay but the digital BP cuff says things are all over the place...and then it errors out. The visiting nurse says he looks good, but then I get calls saying his BP is rather low. They ask if he is okay and I say yes.. he is bored and wants to go to work. All they tell me is that he should drink water
I dont know if he will have a normal life or if he will be disabled. No one will come out and say if his heart is too damaged. He wants to be cleared to drive. I put him off by saying that his stress test should give us a clue. That is January 11th. I know he will just do what he wants if he feels good. He says he doesn't care if he does at work. I care if he has a problem driving and kills other people.
I have a lot on my mind.
I am afraid I am not taking care of my Father correctly, but no one will tell me what to do. His blood pressure is all over the place...mostly low. They said when they released him on December 1 that the meds would increase his BP. Im not sure how as 4 of the 3 are fluid pills and they lower BP.
I had to spend 2 hours on the phone about his arrhythmia medication. The pharmacy wont release it until its approved by an insurance company but he does not have a prescription insurance so it must be paid for out of pocket...$700.00. I wouldn't mind that I have had this conversation many time with the hospital pharmacy. Each time a different person answers the phone. Each time I need to go over it again and again.
On Nov 30th I signed Dad up for an insurance plan for January 1, but I have not received a bill or cards. I dont know how this works at all. I wanted the bill paid from his social security but I have received mail stating that social security may take 3 months to pay so I should pay any bills, but I dont have a bill to pay. I will have to take time off of work to try and call but I dont have an id or group plan number or anything. I may not be able to get anyone to help me.
On Sunday a friend that I hadn't seen in a long time was supposed to drop by as he was traveling very close to my house. I was looking forward to the visit. He texted me and said that maybe he shouldn't drop by as he had been traveling and in the public and he was afraid he could bring covid into the house and my Dad is still recuperating and I am the care giver. I asked him to please come. He said it wasn't wise. No it wouldn't be wise. I am sad he didnt come.
I feel like I am in limbo and getting no info is raising a lot of anxiety. Is Dad frail? He seems okay but the digital BP cuff says things are all over the place...and then it errors out. The visiting nurse says he looks good, but then I get calls saying his BP is rather low. They ask if he is okay and I say yes.. he is bored and wants to go to work. All they tell me is that he should drink water
I dont know if he will have a normal life or if he will be disabled. No one will come out and say if his heart is too damaged. He wants to be cleared to drive. I put him off by saying that his stress test should give us a clue. That is January 11th. I know he will just do what he wants if he feels good. He says he doesn't care if he does at work. I care if he has a problem driving and kills other people.
I have a lot on my mind.
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Date: 2022-12-17 01:07 am (UTC)I am so sorry you are having to deal with all of this.
I wish there was something I could do to make it easier for you.
HUGS, Jon
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Date: 2022-12-18 03:24 pm (UTC)