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[ravena_kade]

Dad was in a tizzy to buy the new grill a few weeks ago. I didn't see the rush, but he did.
We get it and he doesn't want e to use it because he wants to build a slab for it to rest on so it doesn't take up room on the patio... takes him 3 weeks to do this. Okay...

When I bought the grill I wanted to buy a tank of gas. No he protested...we have enough. Save $$$..

I go to use the grill for the first time and there is no gas.

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We needed a new hose. I had a cousin pick up a metal hose for me. 2 weeks ago day wants to go get plants for the front of the house. I plant them...and want the hose hooked up. He doesn't want that as he wants to hook it up a different way. He wants me to carry water around the house for them. UMMMMM I would not have planted plants if I could not use the hose. Why can't I use the hose...he doesn't want it wet before he sets it up...

I try not to yell...and I didn't, but pal...I am using the hose I bought.

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His shower breaks the other morning so he is up in my house at 4 AM.

He says he'll call the plumber to get fixed. I said that I am home, but I have an appointment and need to leave the house at 1:30 on Thursday. When does he book the plumber...Today. And what is the plumber doing? Well Dad has him putting in a new faucet outside...but Dad did not tell me this. I have had no water in the house for3 hours and I need to leave in an hour.
Dad wants me to cancel My dentist appointment. Such an ass. I said no. Dad wasn't even going to pay the plumber today.

So I leave the whole house open because I don't want to give up the appointment...but any issues are just because I am a bitch.

I can't figure out why my Mom never strangled him.

Comments

[gwendraith]

Have you told him what a selfish pain the arse he is? ;) It's tricky, sometimes wanting to abandon him but you can't because he's your dad. xx

[ravena_kade]

I did have talk with him how we need to work better as a team... and what that means. I told him that I understand that there are things that he can't do... but communication is not one of those things. And scheduling around my needs needs to be more of a priority because I am not a favored person in my job.

The hard thing for me is that he looks at the cousins and they do everything for their Mom...but there are 5 of them and they make more money than I do.

The cousins don't think I do enough and my friends who have grown up with really strange parents think I should just run away.

[gwendraith]

It's difficult for you when he takes his cue from the cousins by how they behave. It's often the way that friends see the real situation more than family do.

Running away isn't really an option is it? Your dad perhaps needs a bit of tough love until he begins to understand a bit more. Then again I know that's not an easy path to walk either.

[brickhousewench]

I can't figure out why my Mom never strangled him.

Me either.