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Nov. 26th, 2019 08:35 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ravena_kadeSo my feelings are hurt... I really need to get over it...and move on...
I have offered many many many times to cast ceramics for my friend with the shop...the one who just lost her husband. I have said I would have done it for a higher discount rate...40% instead of 30% as I was under the impression that she didn't have much in the way of funds due to huge legal debts incurred by the husband. I have offered to help her at the Christmas Pop up art shop that her friend runs and said friend won't let me into as she thinks I would be completion wen I all want do is bring business to mt friend's shop. I have done craft shows where we shared a table and I have almost sold all of her items while she had to be at another job. I think that shows my good will....
Well she called me the other day to see if I could help her with the cell phone. She is taking the deceased husbands smart phone and she has no clue.... I helped and got her to the place she needed to be and she tells me that she doesn't think she can do all the casting of ceramics herself and says that she is going ask a student if she would like to learn to cast ceramics and she would pay her.
Umm yeah... okay.
Now I know who the woman is. Nice 70 year old lady, but she won't be able to lift the 40 pound boxes of clay like I do. I have done ceramics and casting ceramics since I was 15. I am built like a sturdy peasant. I carried a pallet full of clay...48 40 pound boxes into her shop one night just to help them out...
and yet... I am not someone to ask to help with something I love to do...
I feel like chopped liver.
It's something I need to let go of... I can't address it right now as she is not in any proper head space since her husbands death. I wanted to help... but...
I had an old friend tell me I am very accommodating... but that seems to get me nowhere.
This weekend she is setting up at the art shop. I offered to help her with that months ago, but while she needs help she isn't letting me in. Fine. Dad says she is jealous. My Mother would have said "well, F her"
I will visit the art thing. I will still support but I am tied of offering.
I also will shop and mingle as there is live music and a beer garden... I need to meet these people so I can get in next year.
I just wish my feelings were not hurt.
I have offered many many many times to cast ceramics for my friend with the shop...the one who just lost her husband. I have said I would have done it for a higher discount rate...40% instead of 30% as I was under the impression that she didn't have much in the way of funds due to huge legal debts incurred by the husband. I have offered to help her at the Christmas Pop up art shop that her friend runs and said friend won't let me into as she thinks I would be completion wen I all want do is bring business to mt friend's shop. I have done craft shows where we shared a table and I have almost sold all of her items while she had to be at another job. I think that shows my good will....
Well she called me the other day to see if I could help her with the cell phone. She is taking the deceased husbands smart phone and she has no clue.... I helped and got her to the place she needed to be and she tells me that she doesn't think she can do all the casting of ceramics herself and says that she is going ask a student if she would like to learn to cast ceramics and she would pay her.
Umm yeah... okay.
Now I know who the woman is. Nice 70 year old lady, but she won't be able to lift the 40 pound boxes of clay like I do. I have done ceramics and casting ceramics since I was 15. I am built like a sturdy peasant. I carried a pallet full of clay...48 40 pound boxes into her shop one night just to help them out...
and yet... I am not someone to ask to help with something I love to do...
I feel like chopped liver.
It's something I need to let go of... I can't address it right now as she is not in any proper head space since her husbands death. I wanted to help... but...
I had an old friend tell me I am very accommodating... but that seems to get me nowhere.
This weekend she is setting up at the art shop. I offered to help her with that months ago, but while she needs help she isn't letting me in. Fine. Dad says she is jealous. My Mother would have said "well, F her"
I will visit the art thing. I will still support but I am tied of offering.
I also will shop and mingle as there is live music and a beer garden... I need to meet these people so I can get in next year.
I just wish my feelings were not hurt.
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Date: 2019-11-27 09:39 am (UTC)But she may also be trying to save you pain if she knows about your hands!
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Date: 2019-11-27 06:49 pm (UTC)I think that maybe my work expectations might be too energetic for her to handle.
Who knows.
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Date: 2019-11-27 12:28 pm (UTC)Hugs
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Date: 2019-11-27 06:43 pm (UTC)Unlike its cousin Pate`
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Date: 2019-11-27 01:34 pm (UTC)*Hugs*
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Date: 2019-11-27 05:35 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2019-11-27 09:39 pm (UTC)you're an amazing person, and it's OK to be annoyed if you offer and the person doesn't accept but then they backtrack and assume, or try to get you to do other things, etc. if you really want to do something for her, offer to do what you're willing to do, and if she says no, then you tried.
as far as getting into the show, i have no idea what that is. she could be jealous or worried about competition, but that would be awfully sad of her after everything you've done. have you ever asked her?