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[ravena_kade]

went to the wake.

Sad.

He looked small. Not sure if some of the smallness was from the week on machines or from the harvesting... They took kidneys, the liver, eyes, and skin. I found out that they can keep skin for up to 5 years. Usually this is fascinating to me...but not when it is someone I know. My friend is pleased that her husband's liver is going to save a 16 year old boy. The kidneys to a couple of middled aged adults.

Wakes are not my thing. I understand the they give closure, but I feel they are torture for the direct family. I am not sure what would be best. I know we did not have one for Ma because theses were her wishes... but I know I needed something as none of my friends were there... and most of the relatives went to Florida a couple days later... I don't know.

My friend looked lost sitting next to her husband's body. I just held her hand. Hands fail me at these things. It is not my strength. I am good at doing things. Things that need to be done.

And I know the hardest part is going home to an empty house.


I can home and hugged the cat.

Tomorrow is the funeral. I am escorting my 90 year old aunt and we know people sit with.

Comments

[fionaniconnor]

I HATE wakes. I do appreciate the closure aspect but I hate just sitting there and staring at a canned dead guy. It's creepy and I always feel useless. I'd much rather be useful than leering at a corpse.

[chris_warrior]

gah. i'm so sorry for your friend. to have all those worries on top of the shock. i'm glad you're going to be there for her, but i too dislike wakes. they can be very difficult to get through. hug@

[guy_todd]

I hate wakes. I'd rather remember people as they were when we spoke. {{hugs}}

[brickhousewench]

If I have to go to a wake, I much prefer them to be closed casket with a picture of the person as I remember them, alive and healthy and happy.

*hugs*