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[ravena_kade]

This death is bothering me... mostly because was just a wrong move in the wrong second... like the snap of a finger.

People are coming to me for info and answers but I don't have any.

I am not a relative or a best friend. Just a friend who happens to know the shop.

The shop is tied in with the ceramics people... who want me to give them info, but I don't have any. One wants to know if my friend will continue the shop. I can't answer that. I hope so... and will help... but it's not my story to tell.

I have no idea when the funeral is. I want to go...but if I can't get a date I can't get the time off of work... I have no back up and working at home doesn't work for me as I don't have the ability the print and read everything I need.

I want to go to the church, but if I can't have a date I can't make the plan.

I need to schedule a dentist appointment for a filling...but I am waiting.

I need to see someone about my hands...they hurt today.. but can't get an appointment... and may insurance is changing come Jan 1...to even worse insurance.

Comments

[malterre]

This death is bothering me... mostly because was just a wrong move in the wrong second... like the snap of a finger.
And that's how it is, sadly. You are a good friend to then, but ultimately, you can only do so much so don't beat yourself up :)

Fucking Insurance.

[fionaniconnor]

I know you feel like it should be, but it is not your responsibility to give out those details, whether you have them or no. In fact I would argue it isn't your place to do so, either.
In your shoes I would simply tell folks that you aren't currently privy to that information and that you are trying to respect her privacy in this difficult time.

[brickhousewench]

I hadn't realized it was your friend who ran the shop.

And I agree with Holly and Angela, you're doing what you can to help. It may not feel like enough, but you can only do what you can with the information that you have available to you.