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[ravena_kade]

3 years ago today I had to make the discussion to end my Mother's life. It is not something I will ever be okay with. I do know what I did was what she would have wanted...but she was mad at me and she never told me. She was in so much pain that they told us not to stop the morphine or it would be agony.

Today they are warming up my friend's husband in hopes that he comes out of the coma the induced. They will do a brain MRI and a heart evaluation. She thought she saw something that said he had no oxygen for 20 minutes... but they did not TELL her that.

I hope for the best...but hope she is not put in the place to make an awful choice.

Comments

[malterre]

Hugs

[guy_todd]

What a terrible situation...I know we all hope for the best possible outcome. {{hugs}}

[chris_warrior]

i hope it doesn't come to that, too, for her sake. and hon, sometimes we're put into a position, because of OTHER peoples' choices, where we have to make choices we could never have foreseen. you did the very best you could do with what circumstances handed you, and one of these days i hope you see that. <3

[fionaniconnor]

You were given a shit hand to play with your Mom; in my opinion you made the best possible choice for her. She was in a bad way and wanted absolutely nothing to do with getting herself better. I'm so sorry you had to make that choice and live with it but you gave her the final mercy of taking away her pain, her suffering, and her misery. You did her a kindness, even though doesn't feel that way.

And I do hope your friend's situation improves. What a scary time.

[ravena_kade]

A shit hand indeed,

I know if we woke her up she would have said to let he go...but I just wish she wasn't mad at me. Oh well.

Last night my friend actually said "I hope he doesn't make me have to make the choice" What is sad is that she only found out that he arrested twice in the ambulance and once in the ER ... I think everyone needs to talk about DNRs . Ma signed a DNR the first night in the ER so I knew.

[fionaniconnor]

My Dad has a DNR that I didn't know about and stumbled upon. I understand why but it doesn't change the fact that I didn't want to ever see that.

I know dog does not equal husband but I hope Sally makes that decision for me. So I kinda know how she feels. I hope he comes through okay.